A friend of mine wrote a blog that so hit a note with me, as I enjoy giving and caring unconditionally, but some people view that with suspicion and questions.
My friend in his blog said: "...I try to maintain a positive outlook...Yet often, my positivity is greeted with suspicion...They are so absorbed with negative aspects, they dismiss my positive intentions and twist it into a negative. 'Let's 'catch' him out. He must have some 'hidden agenda'. What's in it for him?'. I do understand this type of thinking. For when you have been subjected to relentless emotional torment; it is difficult to appreciate or recognise unconditional empathy.
So just what's in it for me? I hope that by trying to help, to support those who have been undermined and disrespected, I help them, I help myself. Together, we can find our direction home. Wont you come along with me as we discover our true direction in life? Together we can inspire through the power of empathy. I throw you a 'lifejacket', please do not perceive it as an 'anchor'. " [Khalanie, Where are We Going? (28.1.2009) http://klahanie.blogspot.com/ ]
I'm a Random Acts of Kindness sort of person when I can, because sometimes I feel that people lose what it is to be human, to care, to give and not to expect or need anything back in return. I'm no mug: I aim not to let people use me, but I'm a Pay it Forward believer, and would rather that the good feeling was spread out to others than return back to me only, although that is fine too to recharge my positivity. I like to celebrate success both in me and in others and it was with that motive that I thought about organising a gift for someone I see as a role model - the singer Brian Kennedy - to celebrate his 20th year in the music business. I encountered negativity through apathy, but some people have got the idea (it was so not about me) and we're working together on it. Fingers crossed it works out xx
5 comments:
Too true. It comes to something when we are afraid to show compassion or love to a fellow human being because of some small minded people's misinterpretation or assumptions that we are only after something. What ever happened to the values of unconditional love and acceptance. Is it that these people have never been shown it before and so resist it because they don't understand it? I don't know. I would still help a person in distress if I could, no matter what anyone else thinks. It's not about them or me - it's about the person who needs help. If we all took time out to help just one person a day then I think the world would be a much better place. People are afraid to intervene because of the fear of injury or that their offer of help may be misconstrued, particularly in the case of children, so we don't help. It's sad.
Thank you from one Julie to another :).
It is sad. A few years ago I saw a young mum struggling with newborn twins and shopping, just outside a superstore. I offered help to carry something for her to her car, but she gave me such a look and said no, probably thinking I wanted to take one of the babies - I was so sad to reflect that this was what the world was now seen as. Another time I saw someone in a wheelchair waiting by the lifts in a carpark and I just said hi and were they ok? The person (I can't now remember if they were male and female) said yes thank you, they were just waiting for their friend, and thanked me again as I had been the first person who had checked that they were ok despite several passersby...
Dear jewel,
Thank you for this blog which so nicely ties in with the quotes you have made from mine.
I think it is sad commentary on today's society that genuine goodwill can be greeted with suspicion and cynicism. Personally, despite this happening to me on numerous occasions, I shall continue to maintain a positive outlook. Like you know, it is worth it. And when it comes to apathy; I just cannot fathom such indifference.
Kind regards Gary
Hi, I think the reason that suspicion rears its head is beacause there is always an agenda pinned to anothers giving... I liked what you said here and it is true, i'm a giver, I enjoy the pay it forward that is moving through this life.... You keep giving and little by little it will be enough to change the world.... Nice to meet you! Suzi
"..a jewel shining through"...
Thank you for a very good blog. dixie
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